I have this beautiful, spunky, 3 year old wild one wonder who keeps me humble and on my toes.
She is sweet and funny, but she can throw a tantrum like nobody’s business. Just the other day we were in the living room and she asked for something. I told her no and offered other solutions, but she was set on what she wanted. When she couldn’t have the object of her desire, she flew herself on the floor and proceeded to cry and whine and roll around. I tried to comfort her, talk to her, reason with her, but she just kept saying…err…yelling, “I don’t want you!” What a punch to a mama heart to hear those words, over and over and over again.
I don’t want you.
That’s her way, when she doesn’t get what she wants, she goes for the kill.
I don’t want you.
I try and calm her, I try ignoring her (which makes her more crazy…and loud), I threaten discipline, and am prepared to deal it out, but as nothing is working I try something else.
I look at her as stern as possible and I say, “If you don’t stop fussing, I’m going to eat your toes.”
I say this in all seriousness.
She doesn’t know quite how to react. I can see the threat rolling over in her mind. She fusses some more, and I lean down and I say, “that’s it, those toes are mine.”
I begin to nibble on her toes. I exaggerate how good there are.
She giggles, but tries to fuss.
The giggling wins.
We laugh and I tickle her and chase her around, I swing her and then I play “This little piggy” on her toes and all of a sudden she forgot her fuss.
After a few minutes of giggling and play, we go on with our day. All is well.
My solution for dealing with a temper tantrum with my wild one (when it isn’t an issue of tiredness or hunger)? Play, chase, nibble, giggle, tickle.
I realize this solution might not work for every child because every child is different, but if you have a bit of a spunky tantrum-flinging babe, give this a try. It sure beats anger and exasperation. Instead of a punishment or action that would leave us all in tears, we end up in ball of laughter.
I like this, and I’ll take it.
Plus, her toes are pretty yummy!
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From one of my favorite authors, John Lynch:
“Stunning. He was given a name to explain exactly where He is during my deepest need.
He is Immanuel-“God is with us”
He is not a concept, a theory or a theology. He is not a system or a religion. He is not an icon, a figurehead, or a mythical movement leader. He is not an allegory. He is not an ideal. He is not a way of life. He is not a memory. He is not experienced in the past or the future. He is not a static-drenched echo from a far off land. He is not once, or at one time. He is not less real now than He was to those who could touch Him. He is not the property of the pietistic, of any denomination or location…He is God with me, God with us, God with them, God with the wicked and twisted and vile, all at once…”
Read the rest here (you really, really want to).
Merry Christmas, friends.
Even if you feel a million miles away from God, or He feels a million miles away from you, remember…
If you know Him, He can’t possibly be a million miles away from you because He is between every heart beat and under every breath.
He is stretching through your spirit, and He surrounds your soul.
He is right there. Always.
Hold onto this truth today, even if you don’t feel it.
“Do you not know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?” 1 Corinthians 3:16
Question from a reader:
“I would love to start a group in my community, but who do I invite (young moms AND older women)? How many chapters are there (how many sessions do I schedule?)? I want to know more and want to get started planning.”
Great questions! Let me answer them for you…
There are 14 chapters plus an introduction (from me) and a conclusion (from Sally). There are also 20 pages of Q & A (readers asked, Sally answered). You can see what the chapters are by clicking here.
What we would love to see is YOU leading a small group of women, younger and older; a coming together to create something beautiful: friendship, mentorship, community, and support. The goal of this book is to create a movement, a no-more-desperate-moms movement. You can be a part of the movement by gathering women in your church and/or community to read the book with.
You could meet once a week and cover a chapter a week (16 weeks), or you could meet once a week and cover two chapters a week (8 weeks). Sally and I led a book study on our blogs you can check out HERE.
You can also get yourself a free Desperate small group guide HERE.
For those Leading a Desperate Book Study
We have made it easy for you to lead a study using Desperate. In the book you will find:
- Study questions
- “Your Turn” challenges
- Links/QR codes at the end of each chapter to videos of Sally and I talking about the chapter (each around 2-4 minutes long)
- DVD (this is just all the QR code videos in DVD form)
So, what are you waiting for?! Gather your groups now and get ready to be a part of the no-more-desperate-moms movement!!!!!!!
Psst…read our goal of the book here!