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I Really Just Love People

I really love people.

Most of the time.

Sometimes I think they’re jerks.

Most of the time I’m the jerk.

But here’s the thing, I see a lot of un-love, especially in the online world where it’s easy to say what we want behind a screen. We can “unlike” someone we disagree with, and we can tell them so (“I’m un-liking you, so there!”). And really, would we talk that way in real life? Over coffee? Would we get up and say, “I don’t like that you said that, dislike! Goodbye!” I don’t think so.

Here’s another thing, let’s give people the benefit of the doubt. Let’s believe the best about someone (I constantly have to remind myself to do this because I’m terrible at it). If I tweet a link to an article written by a gay Christian, can we all just assume I think the article is worthwhile and I’m not necessarily endorsing everything on the blog? Can I share articles and quotes and thoughts from those who may vary wildly from me? Or maybe they don’t. Or maybe it doesn’t matter because I’m not the authority, God is. And maybe even though I’m a leader or an influencer (and even a teacher, which keeps me trembling), I’m also a person who is figuring out my way and will never have it together until heaven, which is why you need to take everything I say (or anything anyone says) and compare it with the Word of God and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Also? No one has cornered the market on truth; we humans, we’re fallible. Quite.

We will all stand before Him one day, not before each other.

In summary…

Love God.

Love people.



 “…God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” James 4:6

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:36-40

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  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Melissa-Smallwood/1131342925 Melissa Smallwood

    I remember when I started reading Like A Warm Cup of Coffee, one of the things I loved about you was that you didn’t mind dissenting opinions. There were many times I disagreed with a post and if I left a comment with a different point of view, you were welcoming and respectful, not defensive. (Joyce Meyer post comes to mind as well as one about youth group). You always posted things that made me think and expanded my point of view, without making me feel like you were pushing your ideas on me. One of the many things I have come to love and respect about you 🙂

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      Thanks, Melissa! Most of the time, I stink at it, but maybe Jesus is getting through to me after all! 🙂

      • http://ellasmom505.blogspot.com/ Sarah

        I echo Melissa’s exact sentiments. There are still things I am pondering from your LAWCOC. I’ve always had the so much respect for you and how you handle different views and opinions. You embrace grace more than you realize my sister! Love you just as much now as back in the good ole coffee days!

  • Mama S

    sorry, looks like you had a hard time, or maybe I read this wrong. Hoping that you have a restful and sweet evening. Phil 4: 6-7 (may the PEACE of God that transcend all understanding guide your heart and mind in Christ Jesus)

    Much love

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      Not really, just thinking about how we, mainly Christians (sad to say) treat each other. We are all the beautiful ones, the saints, and we should treat each other as such. 🙂

      • Mama S

        Very true, I agree.

  • Heather

    Brilliant reminder!

  • http://twitter.com/janellewrites Janelle

    Amen sister! Amen. Nothing else to say, as you said it all, and well.


  • http://designing31.com/ tascha {designing31.com}

    Thank you.

  • Kendal Rich

    I have to admit, I did raise my eyebrows when I saw your tweet today about the book you were reading. It is hard to “read between the tweets”, so to speak. People are listening to you, so I definitely think it matters greatly what you tweet or don’t tweet. When you post an article on homosexuality of course people will have opinions, and I am assuming you tweeted that to actually get a few eyebrows raised. And hey, it worked for me! :-}

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      I’m trying to not be controversial on purpose, I think that’s foolish, but I do like to put articles out there to make people think. I especially want to see myself reaching beyond boxes so I can truly love (although I’m figuring out what this looks like practically). 🙂 By the way, nice to see you here friend!

      • Kendal Rich

        Well, I like getting my eyebrows raised every now and then! Helps me to think outside of my comfort zone……not always an easy thing for me. 😉

  • Mary @ Giving Up on Perfect

    Amen. Also? I have that book on my to-read list. Largely because my brother is a gay Christian, but also because I’ve heard it’s a good read for all believers who want to understand this issue better.

  • Wanda

    I’ve learned…..it’s impossible to please everyone. But it’s most important to please God.

  • http://twitter.com/stop4chocolate Lisa

    Good post! If people would just remember to say online only what they would say right to a person’s face, I think things would be much better! Love you always my friend – whether we agree on everything or not! Hugs!

  • http://www.facebook.com/MLdawe Mirinda Lynn Dawe

    I raised my eyebrows as well….then stepped up on my soapbox (in my head) I was beyond convicted and realized that the Lord may be leading you somewhere/teaching you something that has nothing to do with me or my own issues….or goodness, my judgements. I quickly knocked myself off my own soapbox and prayed that whatever it is you are seeking to learn, He would show you. 🙂

  • http://www.facebook.com/raventhreads Rebecca Ray

    I actually appreciate when the bloggers I follow bring things to my attention that I might not have seen or heard before because I like the way it makes me think about issues and what Jesus would really do…By the way, I’m in the middle of “Torn”, the book it looks like you just finished, and I love the honesty and struggle portrayed in the book. This issue is one that had been on my mind ever since all that Chick-fil-a stuff last year, and my horror at the hatred expressed on both sides. I guess I didn’t really get the depth of the debate until then.

  • http://profiles.google.com/katemariecraig Kate Craig

    God has been working on this in me this year, because it keeps coming up! I keep thinking of Philippians 2 “in humility value others above yourselves.” I always thought that meant thinking about what other people want more than what I want, but it finally occured to me that it also means to assume the BEST about people. I think what you said about giving the benefit of the doubt is key… respect people enough to assume they have the best intentions.

  • Jessica

    at the end of the day being gay is no more a sin then gossiping to your girlfriend or lusting after the latest movie star…. we just as Christians have decided to attack the one thing that that is so debatable cause Heaven forbid we’re actually honest with ourselves that we’d just as bad of a sinner as they are…. it only takes one sin to make us a sinner no matter the sin. We just all need Jesus. (with that being said – the sin – no matter what it is – we are still called to repent from that said sin and work towards becoming more Christ like!)

  • Holly

    Sarah Mae- I’m just going to put it out there. The audience you built over the years is very conservative- you aligned yourself with Vision Forum and other bloggers who have strong opinions about homosexuality in the church. These are women bloggers who spank their kids, submit to their husbands, and who are who are right-wing capitalists. You started the Raising Homemakers blog, for goodness sake! Gradually, you have begun looking at Christianity with a more “progressive” lens- tweeting about feminism, communism, promoting a book by a Christian gay activist, tweeting the same articles Rachel Held Evans tweets, and distancing yourself from the Raising Homemakers blog.

    Be honest with your audience! If your views on certain social aspects of Christianity have changed, let the people know! It’s not fair to post anti-gay messages (I’m thinking of a guest post by Jasmine Baucham) and then to feign weariness when your readers are surprised that you are promoting the book Torn. In fact, a discussion about changed views would make for a very interesting blog post.

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      Holly, I appreciate you putting it out there, so to speak. Honestly, I don’t want to take stands, I just want to read and write and live and love people. I love all Christians, conservative, liberal, whatever – we are all saints. And I’m on a faith walk, as we all are, and some of my biblical convictions are extremely conservative, and some are progressive, but what do my views matter if I’m not loving others? I just don’t want to be pinned down, especially because the Holy Spirit is maturing me and working in me and always will be, so my views may alter or I just might choose to be quiet about some things, or cover much in grace. I do like to make people think and question and pray and seek the scriptures for themselves. At the end of the day I don’t want to be known for my strong stance on something, I want to be known for how I loved and how I showed others grace.
      I hope that makes sense.

  • Nina

    Amen… Amen… A to the Men!!! I have been reading your blog since November last year. I’m astounded at how much I can relate to pretty much everything you post. What I find amazing is that you put yourself out there in honesty and in light. You bring your human struggle to the table which helps others to know they/we are not alone. Then I noticed that so many people just want to criticize you. Worse, some have really beaten you up verbally! I don’t know how you do it. I’ve had it on my heart to start my own blog for a few years now. I can’t imagine I will ever write publicly in my faith. I am really sensitive, not to what others think, but when and how it is verbalized. I don’t think I could take the heat. It would crush me. Thank you for taking the judgment out of Christianity. You are a role model for all of us. Thank you for simply loving. It really is what this crazy life is all about. I love you for that. <3

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