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We See The Holes But God Sees The Holy (DBC)

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Chapter 4 just might be my favorite chapter in Desperate.

It’s probably my favorite because writing it, writing through it, reminded me that not myself or my babes will have it together this side of heaven. We will long to “get it right” but we are so firmly planted in the mud of earth and flesh that the longing is really a groan from our spirits hoping for heaven.

My babies sin, and don’t they just show me what a sinner I am?

I am selfish to the core, but I know the One who redeems me from that selfishness. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I still act selfishly, but according to heaven I am righteous. I am perfect, complete, beautiful; I am holy.

We see the holes, but God sees the holy.

And when I look at my babies and I see the holes I know how much they need Jesus, the only One who can turn holes into holy, and when He does that, game changer. My babies, they will sin, but they are not sinners, they are saints groaning for heaven. And I will see them as such, and I will remember my own earthly self and my dirt-stained feet as I walk this long, hard road called life. I will look at them and I will see holy, and I will treat them as holy. I will step down from my rank and offer them so much grace I can’t even stand it, just as my Father has done for me.

He never stops, He never quits me, and He never brings up my holes.

He nurtures me, gently leads, and is so very, very kind.

And this is how I want to be to my children: nurturing, kind, understanding…I will lead them in the every day of choices and life and faith, but all of it is really just a leading to the cross.

They are holy, beautiful ones with dirt-stained feet just like their mama. We’re on this journey together, trusting the Father, following the Spirit, getting up when we fall down knowing there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. We know the truth, and the truth sets us free.

So every day, day in and day out, we cling to the truth that sets us free, that saves us from the muck, that takes our ugly and wears it and gives us beauty instead. When we feel lost or confused, we lean into the ache that reminds us there is something better, something so real that only in moments of spirit joy can we even get a taste of it. Heaven.

But until then, we’ll keep reminding ourselves that we fight against a sin-infested world, and a sin-infested bent, but we’re on one team. We’ve got each other’s backs. We will love in the mess, we will not give up, we will believe in who God says we are.

We are holy,

we are righteous,

we are perfect.

Today, grab your babies, young and older, and look into their eyes and remind them of the truth: “if you know the One, you are free, you are not condemned (ever), you are holy, you are complete. I’m on your team, and I am so with you every step of the way.”


and, “I love you baby, and no amount of sin could take my love for you away. Not ever.”


Your Turn:

  • What stood out to you in this chapter?
  • Do you believe you are perfect according to heaven? How could that knowledge change the way you live?

Past Book Study Posts:

Tantrums in Barnes & Noble, The Motherhood Nod, and Being Rocked (Desperate Book Club – Introduction)

Desperate Online Book study, Chapter 1: Ideals and Going Under

Chapter 2: Not a Loner!

Chapter 3: Will We Live By Formula or Faith?


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  • Jessica

    I love you I love you I love you. seriously you have been life changing to me. I wish I could stand on the top of a building and shout about this book until I’m blue…. I love you. http://andtheycallherblessed.blogspot.com/2013/02/desperate-chapters-3-4.html

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      This message, today’s post, was life-changing for me when it first came to me through scripture. And thank you for your kind words about the book! Love you to!

      • Jessica

        Thanks and for not thinking I’m too creepy (well maybe you do) – just realized how many times I said I love you. ha!

        • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

          Haha! Not creepy! 🙂

  • http://twitter.com/JenniMullinix Jenni Mullinix

    I have been trying to remind myself of this every day. We have such a gracious and merciful God and we must be reflect those attributes for our children to grasp how much the Lord loves them (and how much we love them too!). So grateful for your encouragement, Sarah Mae!

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      It’s mostly really, really hard, isn’t it? But He leads well…

  • KM Logan @lessonsfromivy

    My biggest aha moment as a mother came when I realized that God desired my children to come to him even more than I did. When you’re praying the will of God into your children’s lives there is power in those prayers. Oh how desperately the creator of the universe wants my children for his own. I watch them grow and I see the sin in their lives, but I also see how God is ripening their hearts for the day that they will fully understand what it means to be covered by Grace.

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae


  • Amy

    What stood out to me was I need to embrace God’s Hand more and stop living on my own accord. The craziness might not go away but with God it just seems doable. With 7 children ages 16 to 1 I feel I am in all different kinds of seasons. I can draw on God. He wants to help His children but we need to put our pride and what others my think to a stop. It doesn’t make us weak to know we need help. I read these chapters and I feel you are writing my life in black and white. Thanks for this book. It has become my new favorite. It might be new but my copy looks as it has been put through the ringer. I have underlined, bent pages back, and read it and read it again. Thanks for understanding and giving great godly advice.

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      Thanks for being here with me, with all of us. 7 babes! Wow, such a gift!

  • Jenn

    It really is just leading them to the cross (with us), isn’t it? Thanks for the reminder, it’s really freeing. Especially in the middle of tantrums and toddler drama :).

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      Yes, “with us”!

  • TristineFleming

    Oh, this is the chapter that truly began the healing between me and my son. Ironically, the day I read this chapter I was having one of those days when I was so close to packing my bags and leaving forever! (NOT kidding!!) And I almost didn’t pick up the book, but God prompted me to do so. I was so overwhelmed by this revelation that it brought instant peace into my spirit. No sooner had I finished the chapter and my little boy was at the door with a “peace offering” of a picture he drew for me, along with an apology. I had him sit on my lap and I paraphrased what you told your son, and put it into my own words. I can’t tell you how freeing that was for me! And I haven’t had a bad day like that since then! This was the chapter when I knew God was truly working on healing me. http://www.dailyremindersfromgod.com/2013/01/i-amdesperate.html

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      Oh my goodness, thank you for giving it another go, for picking up the book, for speaking words of grace to your son…for listening to God. He is healing us all!

  • Guest

    This chapter changed my life- literally! God changed my heart towards my boys and my husband in one afternoon amid MANY tears…nothing short of amazing! Thank you for this awesome book- the honesty and wisdom from both you and Sally is so refreshing!

  • http://www.facebook.com/myriah.christine Myriah Christine

    This line stood out: “In our culture…we do not instruct young women on how to build a life-giving home.” I have been a mother for over a decade and am just now learning (with my fifth and sixth kids) that getting angry at my children’s shortcomings doesn’t make them do better, it just makes me feel worse. I get tired of repeating the same things. And yet, am I not so often confessing the same sins over and over again to Our Lord? I am learning with His grace to see my children and love my children with eyes of Love.

    Expectations of perfection only result in depression and anger. That got me. I will be gentler with myself and them. Thank you for writing.

  • Cynthia

    I loved the perspective when someone asked you when you stopped sinning, because that’s when your kids will too. What a great reminder that we are in this TOGETHER!

  • Becca

    I needed to read this. I’m not a mom but I am a wife who failed miserably in how I saw my husband. The Lord has helped me change and I am learning respect and simple joy in this gift of a man. Thank you for reminding us of our incredible identity in Jesus.

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