Today is a guest post from my friend, Christin. She is such a gift to me and I think you will really enjoy her words today. Also, make sure to check out her new, super encouraging and practical eBook, Blog at Home Mom – Balancing Blogging and Motherhood.
As a mother, motherhood can look pretty messy from my point of view. No matter how hard I try to organize my home, my schedule, or my life to make things as smooth as possible, it is never lived out the way I picture it.
But, something that I am slowly beginning to learn, is that motherhood is not meant to fit into the box of neat and tidy. It’s just not. And when we try to stuff it in there, and it doesn’t fit, we grow increasingly frustrated. We believe that there is either something wrong with us, or with our children, because we don’t fit the mold we’ve invented.
When I became a mother, I hung up the idea of writing. It was kind of a subconscience thing. I believed that once I became a mother, everything I did needed to be filtered through that identity, and if it didn’t line up with motherhood, it had to go.
We often believe that because our lives are filled with mothering duties, that our identity is found in only that place. That is simply not true. Our identity is made up of a thousand little pieces that mold us into the character of Christ. Motherhood isn’t the only piece. But it is a beautiful piece–many beautiful pieces.
There are other pieces, too, that make up the greater picture of a life lived for Christ. As mothers, we don’t want to exclude everything from our lives that don’t include our children. Once our children leave the nest, not only will our home be empty, but our hearts will feel empty as well. We won’t know what to do or who we are without our children.
Using the gifts God has given us throughout our years of mothering allow our children to see God’s glory in action through us in various ways.
Your identity is in Christ. His plan for your life is made up of a myriad of moments that make up the whole. When we have children, we bring them along on the journey Christ placed before us. It doesn’t change once we have children, we simply gain companions that we have the privilege of mentoring, leading, discipling, and loving. We then get to show them how to follow in the footsteps of Jesus by fulfilling His will for our lives.
Sure, there are seasons. There are seasons for more of one piece and less of another. The myth of the balancing act is that we believe everything needs to be given the same amount of time, and attention and that’s the mold that keeps leaving us feeling hopeless.
It’s more like a dance, and you follow the rhythms of the seasons of life. We cannot control life events or our children’s free will (i.e. tantrums or rebellion). But we can take what we’re given, and allow God to use it to make life beautiful.
As a writer who wanted to help women understand they could blog and mother, I wrote an eBook addressing the practicality of “balance” between the two. It’s called Blog at Home Mom, and you can check it out here. It’s not about the act of blogging (or writing), it’s about how God chooses to use it.
What gift has God given you that you think God may be nudging you to use?
Christin has a heart to encourage and equip women in aspects of discipleship, marriage, mothering, writing, blogging, and community. She sees the body of Christ as an important community of encouragement and discipleship and works to foster that around the web. Her biggest ministry is to her family and she knows how beautiful, hard, overwhelming, and exhausting mothering can be. Her passion is to encourage mothers who need a challenge or a lift (or both). She has been married 12 years and has 5 children ranging in age from 10 down to 2.
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