I like the fray

I was sitting next to her, the lifeguard at the pool where my kids swim. She put her finger on my knee and pulled on the piece of string that is hanging off the hole in my jeans. “Doesn’t that bother you?” She asked.

“No. I don’t even notice it.”

Because I don’t.

I don’t mind the fray, and in fact, I kind of like it.

I like that torn piece with the strings dangling; I think it gives my jeans some character.

I like the fray.

I like you. And I like loose ends and missing puzzle pieces.

Life is splotchy art, and I think it’s interesting and curious and painful and beautiful.

“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” -Oscar Wilde

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  • Jennifer

    I like the fray also, and I’ve learned that sometimes the gutter isn’t the worst place to be. It keeps me dependent on all things Holy and teaches me to reach for the stars.

  • angelasadventures

    What a great quote that is! I like a little fray, too. It’s better to have a few loose edges, and not have everything all perfect!

  • Laura

    Sarah,

    We’re reading Wonderstruck by Brian Selznick (awesome, awesome artist) and he opens the entire book on that Wilde quote. If that idea is whirling in your mind these days, you might want to add Wonderstruck to your read-aloud list. You will love it. :)

    • http://www.likeawarmcupofcoffee.com Sarah Mae

      Thanks for the recommendation, I will definitely check it out!

  • http://twitter.com/womenabiding Women Abiding

    What a wonderful and unique way of looking at life, Sarah-Mae! I love the way what you wear portrays your beautiful inner character and views…

  • http://Intentional.ME/ Shell @2BeStill

    Lovely, Sarah Mae! There is quiet beauty in the fray. I love it too.

  • http://twitter.com/janas3dresses jana’s three dresses

    I love this illustration. I will need to check out Wonderstruck as well. Thank you, Laura.

  • http://whileonthisside.com/ While On This Side

    Very beautifully written friend! :)

    Like, I really like this a lot.

    It reminds me that what may be imperfect for me is perfect for someone else or the person it belongs to! How quick we are to see the “imperfections and flaws” of someone else’s life and try to fix them when they are perfectly content with how things are. I’ve been on both sides of the fence. I’ve picked other people’s frays and other people have picked my frays. I’ve realized I don’t always enjoy it so much, so what makes me think they will enjoy it?

    I will say this though – if you have stray hair on you, I will get it off! That is something completely different, and I can’t help it! It’s much worse than frays! hahaha!

  • http://www.eileenknowles.com Eileen

    Oh, I like the fray too! Simple, beautiful piece. Thanks.

  • Mark Allman

    I prefer people that I can see the fray with. They are much more real to me and much more interesting. I also love loving the imperfect in people for it makes them what they are.

  • Janelle Marie

    oh yes, sister. me too. i am the fray. i pretty much only know how to be the fray.

    Janelle