My kids were splashing and playing at the indoor pool at the rec center near my house.
I was sitting on a bench watching them, while also perusing through my iPhone, checking email, reading blogs, looking at Instagram, etc. And this thought kept surfacing, “What if someone recognizes me as the girl who wrote the unwired book, and here I am sitting on my iPhone while my kids play without me.”
I looked around.
When I went to the pool yesterday, I took a notebook and pen and convinced myself I’d use my time to write: I’d sketch out bits of life and notes and intersections on how I really want to live. I like making life-maps.
But I didn’t write, I got online, for pretty much the whole time. And there is nothing wrong with doing that, but for me, I felt…not true.
I knew I wasn’t just on my iPhone; I had to be on it. The pull was so great. And so I took my notebook and pen and I wrote a list of pros and cons for having an iPhone:
I can look up phone numbers (Internet)
I can get directions (Internet)
I can listen to podcasts/music/audiobooks wherever I am
I can use it in my house to play music/audiobooks over our Wi-Fi speaker
Voxer (I love this app)
Sharing life on Instagram
Constant pull to be online – check email, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram
Always on it, even while driving
The pros list is longer, but the cons list is heavier.
I made some calls to find out if there was some device that I could use to listen to podcasts, music, and audiobooks without having a phone or Internet attached. The kind lady at the Apple store told me about the iPod Nano, which would do what I wanted, but would cost $149. I then called the Verizon store because I’m up for a free new phone in two weeks. I told her what I was looking for and she said I could get a cell phone (not a smart phone = no Internet) but I could keep my iPhone and use it without a data plan. In other words, I could still use the iPhone for podcasts, music, and audiobooks and use the Wi-Fi function in my home (since we have Wi-Fi) to play those things over our Wi-Fi speakers, but not have Internet or phone when I left my house. Perfect.
Come July 11th, I will be Internet free while out and about.
I will miss Voxer (Logan, how will you ever do without my morning songs?).
I will miss the easy access to phone numbers and directions.
I will miss Instagram.
I will miss a lot of things, I’m sure. I might even kick myself. But I’ve got to be authentic, and I’ve got to be free.
Many of you will read this and think, “Girl, why are you so drastic? Just use a little self-control! For the love!”
I hear you, I do. But I know myself and my weaknesses, and I would just rather be drastic in this case.
So it is.
Here’s to living true.
Have Cell Phones Taken Over Our Lives? Must watch:
Today is a good day because I get to introduce you all to my life-coach.
Yep. I have one of those. Never thought I would, but I do. And can I just tell you, SHE ROCKS. For real. I’m a believer in life-coaches now, where before I was all, “Seriously, who gets a life-coach? What kind of new age junk is that?” I was, might you say, skeptical?
But THEN I realized that I was crazy and unorganized and had a so many ideas and no place for them to land and I love run-on sentences and…
So I did the normal thing.
I tweeted that I wanted a life-coach. ‘Cause that’s totally normal, right?
Friends, meet the lovely, wonderful, kind, helpful, Carey Bailey…
Oh friends, I just LOVE HER.
She has been so helpful to me, like, life-changing helpful. She pointed out some hard truths about some of my choices, and it flipped me good.
All of this to say that I asked her if she would offer one of my readers four weeks of her life-coach services for free to celebrate the launch of The UnWired Mom, and SHE SAID YES.
Because I figure, if you’re using the Internet as an escape, or you just get sucked into being online too long, or you’re not engaging and enjoying your real life, maybe some life-coaching would do ya good.
There are other reasons to consider talking with a life-coach. According to Carey…
Life coaching can…
- help you discover what brings you joy.
- help you make choices about how you spend your time based on your core values. (THIS THIS THIS. Um, THIS <—–Sarah Mae’s note)
- help you create realistic priorities so your day doesn’t feel overwhelming. (Oh yea, this too!)
- help you assess your current life satisfaction and strategize with you on how to live a whole life. (Oh, so this as well!)
If you don’t win this giveaway, you should just hire her. If you can. But try. She’s offering a 20% discount code for all life coaching packages. Just use code: UNWIRED. It will be active till 8/1/2013. WOOT! Go here, email her.
Onto the giveaway!
Just fill out the form below! Good “luck”!
P.S. Life-coaching is not therapy. Although it is for me. But it’s really not, so this is the disclaimer, k?
P.P.S. The UnWired Mom hit #1 in three categories on Amazon, so THANK YOU!!!
I remember when I first realized that my mom was an alcoholic.
I was fourteen and had recently moved in with her. I had noticed her drinking beer here and there, but didn’t think much of it. My mom was the fun mom. Until she wasn’t anymore. Until she was drunk and mean and verbally abusive.
I confronted her on her drinking, naively thinking she wasn’t aware of her alcoholism and just needed an intervention.
“Mom, I think you’re an alcoholic.”
“So what.” She replied. And then she laughed.
There it was, and that was our life. So what. This was the way it was, get used to it.
I begged her to stop drinking, and I remembering saying to her several times, “If you loved us you would stop.”
I finally moved out of her house when I was seventeen. I couldn’t take being there anymore.
I judged my mom for many years, considering myself better than her. I remember making a vow that I would never be like her; I would never become an alcoholic, and I would never do anything to hurt my children the way she had hurt me.
“For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:2
But you know it’s interesting these vows we make, and these judgements we carry. And now that I’m a mother I can see my mom in a different light; I can see her wounds and her loneliness and not so much her cruelty.
Here is an excerpt from a post I wrote a few years ago:
I completely understand how one becomes addicted to a substance.
For me, if I were to indulge myself, that would probably be alcohol. I assume this because my mother is an alcoholic. I vowed never to be like her.
But I am.
I am like her. I’m like the her before she took the drink. I’m tired. I don’t know how to live my life. I’m overwhelmed. I love my children intensely. I have no idea, some days, how on earth I am going to parent them.
It would be easy to start with a glass of wine. A little something to numb the mundane of life.
Because I’m just so tired.
My spirit is that of a ragamuffin. I will never have it “together”…and I’ll never pretend to. In the words of Moses, I’m not eloquent of speech. I wonder why God is using me for His glory when there are so many better than I to use. But that is not really here nor there. The point is,
I’m not going to drink.
Or numb out with whatever.
I’m just going to be tired. I’m going to just walk, slowly, one day at a time as the Spirit makes me holy.
My hands are up.
All is grace.
I may not have turned to alcohol, but I did turn to another drug: the Internet.
The Internet was my escape from reality. When I was too tired, or the constant conflict between little ones got to be too much, I got online. I tuned the world around me out. So really, I’m not that much different from my mom.
I’m choosing to not stay drugged. I will not let anything master me. I am free.
So many things to cover today…
First up, trouble-shooting!
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And finally, GIVEAWAYS!
Tuck your smart phone into one these lovely little wristlets – out of sight, out of mind, but still with you!
The next gift pack is from What’s in the Bible! I’m sure you’ve heard of them, but just in case you haven’t, it was created by the same man who created Veggie Tales. The goal of What’s in the Bible is to get children (and parents) to understand the Bible – “The Bible made easy!”
Today’s giveaway from What’s in the Bible is a prize pack containing Volumes 10 and 11 of the What’s in the Bible series, and a My Jesus Journal (value $49.97).
One reader will win the What’s in the Bible prize pack, and one reader will win the Sorta Southern Boutique prize pack. To enter, fill out the form below (or if you’re reading this in an email, click here to come to come to the blog and enter).
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Oh friends, it’s done.
The UnWired Mom – Choosing to Live Free in an Internet Addicted World is my newest eBook, and for the next two days you can get it for FREE.
The UnWired Mom offers encouragement, vision, practicality, and a two-week challenge designed to equip you with healthy online habits so you can live fully present and purposeful in your real life.
I wrote this eBook because I needed it. It’s my story and my conviction to be present in my real life. It’s about pursuing purpose, and living aware in the everyday.
The premise of The UnWired Mom is not that the Internet is bad; it is that we can enjoy it and use it without losing our lives to it. The UnWired Mom is about keeping our lives full and whole and allowing technology to be a healthy part of that life instead of an unhealthy, consuming one. The UnWired Mom is, at its core, about freedom.
If you’d like, you read more about this eBook HERE and take a look at the Table of Contents HERE. Special thanks to What’s in the Bible and the Sorta Southern Boutique for sponsoring The UnWired Mom. Make sure to come back tomorrow to learn more about them and be entered to win some wonderful gifts.
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All the Journals have been given away! (Wow, you all are fast!)
The super wonderful folks at DaySpring have decided to be a part of The UnWired Mom release. There is a two-week challenge in the eBook on creating healthy online habits that I encourage readers to journal through. DaySpring has partnered with me and offered 50 of these lovely journals ($16.99 value) to the first 50 readers who would like to get the eBook and take the challenge.
To get your journal, just head HERE and enter the code: UNWMFREE. Since there are only 50 journals available, so it’s a first come, first serve kinda thing. One thing to note, while the journals are free, you still must pay shipping and handling. If you’d like a different journal, or you want to stock up, all DaySpring journals are buy two get one free this month.
I so hope you find this eBook encouraging and helpful.
Here’s to freedom.
P.S. The UnWired Mom will be available on Kindle for only $4.99 tomorrow around noon!