One-Year Anniversary Celebration with Desperate Gift Set Giveaway!

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Happy Monday! :)

Today Sally and I are celebrating the one-year anniversary of the release of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe

To celebrate, I will be having a giveaway here every day this week!

About Desperate:

“I just can’t be a mother today.”

If you’ve ever whispered those words to God in quiet desperation, you are not alone.

Desperate is for those who love their children to the depths of their souls but who have also curled up under their covers, fighting back tears, and begging God for help. It’s for those who have ever wondered what happened to all their ideals for what having children would be like. For those who have ever felt like all the “experts” have clearly never had a child like theirs. For those who have prayed for a mentor. For those who ever felt lost and alone in motherhood.

In Desperate you will find the story of one young mother’s honest account of the desperate feelings experienced in motherhood and one experienced mentor’s realistic and gentle exhortations that were forged in the trenches of raising her own four children.

If you’re tired and struggling as a mama, Desperate can help you…

  • see, through the honest words of a young mom in the thick of the little years, that you are not alone or crazy
  • get through the little years with grace and sanity (wisdom from Sally Clarkson, wise woman, mentor, and mama to four grown children)
  • affirm you as a mom instead of make you feel guilty
  • create and pursue a vision of perseverance in the good, daily work you are doing as a mother
  • answer specific parenting questions through the Q & A at the end of the book
  • encourage you through videos of Sarah Mae and Sally talking about each chapter (via QR codes at the end of each chapter)

Today’s Giveaway!

Today’s giveaway is a small group gift set to get you started in leading your own Desperate small group book study! The winner will receive 8 books plus the DVD with all the videos discussing each chapter. If you’ve never led a small group study, check out my post on How to Lead a Women’s Small Group Bible Study. And specifically for Desperate, you can download this Desperate Small Group Guide for FREE!

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“Powerful, captivating and gut-wrenchingly honest; if this superb book could get into the hands of every mom, our world would drastically change, for the good! It’s a new classic for a new generation.”

-Kristen Habermehl, Author & Speaker from MyHeartAtHome.com

To Enter

Just fill out the form below! (Email readers, click here to come to the site and enter.) Giveaway ends this Friday at 11:59pm EST!

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  • Alexis

    I would love to lead a group! I have loaned my book out to so many women and need to buy more so I can GIVE them away… next sale :)

  • Jen Heemskerk

    Oh…I have felt for a long time to begin a young women’s/mamas group to help encourage and build up others in our church and community. This set would be perfect. ~Jen Heemskerk

  • Elizabeth

    I’d love the opportunity to be able to encourage other mamas in a study. Pick me, please!

  • John Helene Trueheart

    If you have little ones who still nap, it’s imperative to keep them on schedule. A rested child is a happy child. And, if possible and needed, rest when they do. :)

  • Kristy Edwards

    Always remember children have to learn and we all learn through making mistakes. So make sure to be there for them not against them.

  • Shanelle

    One of the small groups at our Mastering Motherhood group is doing this book as a study. It would be great to bless the group with free books.

  • Jessica

    We just started a small group bible study this would be perfect for the month of February!!!! I would tell all new moms to breathe… just breathe sometimes and to know that my number is truly a 24/7 hotline for them. You HAVE to have a support group.

  • Beth Wittenberg Mast

    Wow, what an amazing opportunity to be able to share this with other women! Thanks so much for giving us a chance to win. This is a book I will return to many times. I loved it and it reached my heart.

  • robyn

    Just to love them as Christ loves us. So hard sometimes, but so worth it!

  • Dawn Paoletta

    I would tell a new Mom, to not worry when she feels like a failure or that everyone else has the answers. She’s not and they don’t. Trust and lean on God. He loves desperate moms, because they lean on Him and not their own understanding.

  • Donna C

    These books would be such a blessing to me and my sisters in law, of which I have 7 that could use this book. How perfect is the number you are giving away. Happy Anniversary!

  • Amanda Burt

    I would tell a new mom to keep a child on a schedule and nap time is a mom’s rest time too. Take some time for yourself during that time. To read, have a cup of tea, a phone call with a friend….or a nap for mom.

  • Erica buck

    Be flexible, and remember to find ways to have you-time and breaks!

  • Jan

    Pray for, and love your little one, even when it is hard! Surround yourself with other moms at all different stages, it helps a lot!

  • Mindy D

    These books would be awesome to have…ever since I picked up this book I have been on fire for “Desperate” sharing these valuable thoughts with all the mamas I know! I have started my own small group in hopes of bringing “Desperate” to our MOPS group at church in the future. Love, love, love this! My advice to new moms is PATIENCE and PRAYER!

  • http://ajourney4life.blogspot.com/ Jenn

    I would love to host a study of this book with some of the moms in our community. I just started reading this book, not thinking I needed it, but because I bought it a year ago, wow, is it ever speaking to me and I so relate to you in what you went through. I didn’t realize how worn I felt. I am always telling moms, to be the best mom, you will need a whole lot of Jesus and some good mom friends, and if they don’t have that I tell them to go to a moms group, Bible study at a church, etc…

  • Julianne

    Never underestimate the power of prayer! And, during tough times, I try hard to see Jesus in each of my children. It reminds me that God comes to us in many different forms.

  • Lorie

    I would love to win this study and journey through this study with my mom friends.

  • Megan H.

    Laugh!

  • OhioMom3

    Take it easy, I was so uptight with my 1st and I see my SIL doing the same thing, relax, you’re baby will be fine if they eat something off the floor, if they touch a dog and then stick their thumb in their mouth or if they aren’t doing X when the dr says they should :D

  • Kim

    Pray. Pray. and then pray some more! Pray for today and pray for the future.

  • jeanine

    pray!!!

  • rachelrusticus

    Take courage, trust, and joy.

  • Marie

    I have read Desperate and found so much comfort in it. I would love to share it with moms at my church.

  • Shannon

    Loved the book – would love to share it with other desperate moms!

  • Sofie

    Sleep habits will change every week with a wee one. Don’t get discouraged if you’re trying to set a routine, throw the routine out the window until they’re at least 10 months old and enjoy all the cuddles.

  • Sue Lim

    There’s no perfect Mum but thank God that we have a perfect God!

  • Marcie

    Play with your children. They won’t be little for long and both of you will gain from time spent together in a blanket fort, around a puzzle, or on a swing.

  • Cassie DeLapp

    I’d tell her that there is no perfect mom and no single right way to raise children.

  • Lindsey Catiller

    Accept help for household chores it’s ok to get help and just love on your new baby.

  • Amanda Talbert

    My advice would be to slow down… rest when you need to, take breaks when your child asks you to, play with them as much as possible, and think before you speak.

  • pam

    Know that it is completely normal to get frustrated and struggle. Just make it your normal to turn to the Lord when that happens.

  • Bethany

    Limit the activities you are involved in (personal, ministry, etc.) Don’t wear yourself out by trying to do too much when your kids are little. You will have plenty of time to do those things when they are older.

  • Jen L.

    Be flexible!!! Sleep when your baby sleeps and don’t be afraid to ask for help with the housework. There are many women who have been there and would be more than willing to help b/c they remember what it was like when they were new moms.

  • Heather

    Happy Anniversary! I haven’t read your book but I really need to!

  • Wendy Martin

    I have your book on Kindle, but was soooo pleased to see it in print at our local B & N in Spanish Fort, AL. I, too, have a special relationship and bond with an older Christian woman who is 71 years young and so very dear to our family. Don’t think I could do this life without her.

  • http://teamsoutherland.com/ RaShell S

    Never stop loving, and never start yelling.

  • Becky B

    Enjoy your little ones- It goes so fast. And deep breathes before talking.

  • bahoffer

    Great book and awesome contest! Happy 1 Year Anniversary!

  • bahoffer

    Advice that I’d recommend is to make sure that you hug & kiss your little ones at least once a day if not more often that that. We get so busy and so task-oriented that this is something that is easy to forget to do!

  • noodleandbeansmommmy

    God gave you your kids. You are uniquely gifted to be their mom. It is hard work!!! But hold on to the fact that God made you for this!!! :) you got this mama!! (Ask and HE will always get you through)

  • Aimee Garrison

    Don’t compare yourself or your child to others!

  • Beccy

    Don´t stress yourself with trying to be perfect. Take the little bumps on the road with Humor and prayer-thats my advice

  • delicatefade

    Don’t be worried about being perfect. Enjoy each day for what it brings.

  • Patty

    Sleep when baby sleeps, love your husband and read desperate! :)

  • Erin

    Relax and enjoy every moment God gives you with your kiddos!

  • Meagan

    Hold your babies. The rest can wait! The dishes will still be there tomorrow, but your baby will never be that exact age or in that exact moment again.

  • Ruth C

    Realize that mothering, especially at first can be hard! You are not the only one who had been here and figuring this thing out. Ask for help and don’t feel like you are alone.

  • Christine

    Enjoy them when they’re little; take time to make deposits in your relationship with them. They grow up too fast!

  • Bonnie

    Realize that newborns are NOT little adults! They just left your body where they received 9 months of curling up to constant warmth, constant touch, constant contact with YOU–their favorite person EVER! :-) Don’t make the mistake of thinking that a life flat on their back on a crib mattress is a substitute for you. It won’t last long, and they WILL learn to sleep on their own, and you WILL have a life that doesn’t revolve around how full your boobs are. But don’t expect it to happen in “8 weeks or less”.

  • Kathryn C

    Sleep when you can, and relax :) Let them sleep on you!

  • thefiveharts5

    ‘Listen’ to all advice given, then trust yourself to do what’s right for your little person. Those who have walked the road before often have good advice, but every baby is different. You need to hear from those wise people, but you don’t have to follow it. Love your baby, enjoy getting to know him/her, trust yourself.

  • cassandrasines

    Pray! I would love to win this set to work through with the moms in the special needs parents support group that I lead. I myself, parenting three special needs children, feel worn out and desperate all the time! I know others do as well! I think this study is just what we all need! Thank you for the opportunity!!!!

  • Lori Tintes Hartmann

    Be good to yourself. Rest when your baby sleeps. Give yourself good nourishment. Don’t feel guilty if you step away for some moments for yourself. A refreshed mom makes for a happy mom that is able to give and sacrafice unselfishly for her babies. Don’t try to be super mom. Embrace the here and now with your little one.

  • Emily

    Connect with a community of other Moms as soon as you can.

  • Emily

    This looks great, wow!

  • Holly Brown

    I would say that God is our source of joy and strength. Pray for His perspective on our roles as moms and allow Him to change you. In fact, I blogged about just that not too long ago: http://bit.ly/1bKKUkd

  • Amy Crain

    Give yourself grace.

  • Jennifer O

    Focus on the present, don’t wish away the present hoping and dreaming of their future. So many times I did just that and I regret it. Embrace the life you have and make the best of it. Be intentional with your days.

  • VeronicaS

    I’d say, “Relax”.

  • Betsy Smith

    What an amazing opportunity. I don’t think there is a mother on earth who hasn’t felt this way.

  • Summer

    What a GREAT giveaway! Thanks and happy anniversary! :)

  • Naomi Dalton VanPietersom

    Rest when your baby is resting and don’t sweat the small stuff! Nobody expects you to do it all, and you can’t anyway, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Relax and enjoy your amazing baby because they grow up way too fast!!

  • Katrina S

    Pray.
    Yes, take in all sorts of advice and ideas and so on, but ultimately YOU are the one to whom the Lord gave this precious child. Pray for wisdom and guidance in parenting YOUR child. There is no “one size fits all” answer to how to mother well.

  • Lauren Price Simms

    Put down your phone, kindle, ipad and really give your focus. Dont worry about cleaning or dishes or folding laundry mountain. It’ll get done. You child(ren) need(s) all of you!

  • Summer

    Take a deep breath.

  • Catherine O.

    Rest – a tired mama is a less patient mama. Congratulations on the anniversary of your book. I’d love to be able to share it with friends through a small group.

  • Elisabeth Lind

    Remember to give both them and yourself some grace during the hard times

  • Shaunna@mamas13minutemile

    Be present :)

  • Becky

    Take care of yourself too. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, even so that you can take a nap. Get enough girlfriend time!!

  • RJB

    Trust yourself, pray, and laugh!!

  • Alicia

    My mothering advice is don’t start doing something with your baby unless you want to have to continue it for many years to come since it is a hard habit to break for both mom and baby. Example: Don’t rock your baby to sleep every night unless you want to have to keep doing that until they are much older.

  • http://www.tjsmhanesfamily.blogspot.com Stephanie Hanes

    Don’t stress about the laundry, dishes, and cleaning. There will always be more piles of dirty clothes, dishes, and messes tomorrow, but your babies won’t always be babies. Give yourself grace, because no one can do it ALL. Your job right now is nurturing, loving, and caring for your baby – and that is far more important than anything else on your “to-do” list.

  • Tiffany Wynn

    Pray, Pray, Pray! God really will step in and give you the strength you never knew you had!

  • M Lindsey

    Enjoy the little moments & really SEE your kids. Don’t get distracted by all of the “to do’s” or wish the time away. It goes by so fast. Take advantage of teachable moments. And have grace with yourself & with them.

  • Fazie

    You were created and hard wired by God to be all in! It takes God to love God and we need him to fill us with Himself, so we can bring our family His love and patience. He loves us even in our weakness and is so FOR us and WITH us…Emanuel God with us. Be loved and Be His:)

  • Hilllarey Yoder

    My mom advice….get out of the house. even if it’s just to walk to the mailbox. fresh air does wonders when you think you are drowning.

  • Laura p

    You are the mom the God made for your kids. So even when it’s hard, you are enough. Oh and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. We all need help from time to time.

  • Sayle

    Pray. Take a deep breath, relax, have fun and don’t forget to smile.

  • Marcy

    Pray. Pray often and pray fervently. Do the best you can and remember that God gave those blessings to you, which means he will equip you for the task.

  • sarah

    I would tell a new mom to PRAY and REST in Jesus’ love. Being a new mom is scary but with Jesus all things are possible.

  • shirley

    Sleep when baby sleeps and do not try to do it all! Be there for your baby and family

  • http://www.CleverColleen.com/ Clever Colleen

    The advice I would give (which is a hard concept to truly get) is that you ARE exactly what your child needs. God knows your gifts and your failings. While I would still encourage women to work on whatever areas of life that the Lord is convicting you about, I would also encourage them to know that they are ‘enough’ just as they are. God makes no mistakes.

  • Kristal

    Remember in the tough, exhausted moments that this very child was created and given to you as a gift. There are so many others who want just a small piece of your heaven because they have not been able to conceive. Hold your child close, because many children do not have a home full of love and support, but fear and coldness. Our babies grow entirely too fast and they are our future so show them how to go into the world emitting God’s love.

  • Rita Scott Parker

    Jesus first – Pray. Read the Word. You – Give yourself the gift of grace. Ask for help. Nap with baby. Keep your spouse involved. Listen to your instincts. Others – Practice shortest sentence… “No.” *smiling sweetly*

  • http://realinginlife.com/ Cheryl Simpson

    Saying “yes” to one thing is saying “no” to another and vise versa. This works its way out in a myriad of ways in the mommy world. Here’s few: a “yes” to accepting help is a “no” to going over the deep end (emotionally, physically). A “yes” to taking a nap (even though there are a pile of dishes and chores) is a “no” to a grumpy, frazzled self. A “no” (literally said to a child) is a “yes” to teaching your child, or keeping him from danger, or, in some cases, setting healthy boundaries for you. (You really can’t do it all.) A “no” to picking up the phone or surfing the net is a “yes” to (fill in the blank) priority. Know what you are saying “yes” and “no” to.

  • Amy

    Advice: Get up early! It’s hard… but, set your coffee… make it special and get up before your kids!

  • Paula Romer

    I would say “trust your gut” and lead by promptings of the Holy Spirit. It’s so easy to listen to every one’s opinion and it can be so confusing. God made you all you need to be for that child. He doesn’t call the equipped… He equips the called.

  • Heather P

    Definately sleep when your baby sleeps! Also, YOU were gifted your specific children to YOU by GOD. YOU know what is best for them, because GOD knew you would. Never question your ability to be the right kind of mom for your kids. The way you do it is the right way to do it! Keep asking God to give you wisdom to raise your specific children according His plan!

  • chellorraine

    I found this book very encouraging, thank you!

  • IowaSarah

    As hard as it might be, do not give into the comparison game! Every mom is different and every child is different. Do not let another mom make you feel like you are doing it wrong just because you do things differently than she is doing them!

  • Lora Farrell

    Relax! Don’t compare, and get as much sleep as possible:)

  • CW

    Enjoy your children. Have a relationship with them and talk to them about what you are doing.

  • Marisa Anderson

    I would give the new mom advice to sleep whenever you can so you are rested enough to enjoy being a mom!

  • Michelle Sweeten

    Remember God gave you grace, wisely give your children grace! And pray about & for them!

  • MomsBandB

    Don’t sweat the small stuff!

  • Randi S

    It’s ok to admit that you have no idea what you’re doing, that you’re scared or sad or hate this or think it’s hard. If we all would just admit what we’re feeling truly, we’d feel a lot less alone.

  • Pam

    What a sweet giveaway. My mom advice would be to relax. And find time to sleep…even if it means dropping the kids off for a bit somewhere!

  • SaraR

    Even if you prayed desperately for this child and wondered if your empty arms would ever be filled there will be days when you’re ready to throw in the towel (or the 7 year old out with the bath water!) and that’s ok. Parenthood is a ride of sanctification.

  • tracy

    Relax, be flexible, be grateful for who you have in your life, appreciate even the smallest achievements (when you have children with special needs, the smallest achievements can be the greatest), etc.

  • Rachel

    Pray. It is so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing with their children or expecting from your children. Let go of others’ expectations and pray hard for wisdom to parent YOUR children.

  • camille

    relax and keep your eyes on Jesus, also get your information from older women who have made it through!

  • Kate

    I’d tell a new mom to enjoy the little one while they are little. That first year goes by WAY too fast.

  • Kristy B

    My children don’t need a perfect mom, they need me.

  • Ramona Jaggard Daniso

    Don’t feel guilty when you don’t get everything done you wanted to… life happens, there is always tomorrow.

  • bstill

    Don’t stress about every detail of life but be intentional in what you do and always measure your way of life and doing things to God’s standards.

  • Lindsey Smith

    As a new mom going through chemotherapy with my son, my advice that I got from Sally and your book thay I would tell new.moms is that even in those moments you feel like giving up just remember that we aren’t alone! Trust me.I have been in that dark hour and moment many times but God never leaves us! You can do this!!!

  • Reese

    This too shall pass and all too quickly.

  • Rachel S.

    Pray. Talk to your mom. Talk to your husband. Talk. Journal. If you think you need help, then ask for it.

  • Leslie Clark

    Keep it simple! It’s so easy to get caught up in all the things everyone else or their Pinterest boards or Facebook pages say they are doing!

  • http://coddledlittlelife.blogspot.com/ Sarah

    You aren’t making as many mistakes as you think you are!

  • Tawnda

    I would love to do this in my MOPS group. I JUST bought the book on my Nook and I’m super excited to dig in.

  • Shanna

    Don’t stress about all the ‘good advice’ you are given. Listen graciously, pray and seek the Lord and then do what seems right to you.

  • Erin

    To allow yourself to let things go. When you have children, your house will not be as clean, your life will be crazy sometimes, so relax. It’s normal. And, take care of yourself.

  • Mandy

    Oh goodness. You are not alone and it never is just you….we are all flailing and falling into His arms everyday. Hide yourself in Him. Psalm 91

  • Jessica Claxton

    It’s okay to let the baby cry while you take a shower. It’s okay to not vacuum your carpet because you’re holding your baby. It’s okay to ask for help. This is a season – you will both make it through in one piece!

  • Melinda

    God gave you this little one because He knew you were the best mom for him/her. He’s made you the best mom for this/these kids.

  • Rebekah F

    It’s ok to take a break and you don’t have to do everything perfectly. God is perfect so we don’t have to be, lean on His grace.

  • Tammy

    It’s harder than you thought and even more beautiful.

  • http://kaizenfashionproject.blogspot.com/ Heather S

    Lean on the Lord a lot. Cast your cares on Him. He is the only One who gives us the peace and strength and knowledge to be the best Mom’s we can be!

  • Martha

    Seek the Lord, seek community with other moms in your stage of life and an older, more seasoned momma.

  • Becky Salter

    The best advice I was given, sometimes babies get cranky and will cry. For no good reason. It’s okay (after checking to make sure baby isn’t hungry, hurt, or dirty) to put the baby in the crib, where he/she is safe, and walk away for a few minutes. If you’re going on no sleep and baby won’t stop crying, you will get frustrated. Take time to breathe.

  • Stacy

    Ask for help and find some mom friends!

  • Liz

    Feel free to rest. Cherish the moments you have alone with yourself, the baby, and your husband.

  • Amy

    Sleep when baby sleeps. Do your housework fifteen minutes at a time.

  • LindseyBell

    Hang on…I know it’s hard to believe it today, but things will get better. You will sleep again:)

  • alison_1

    advice for a new mom: stay calm! but actually, when you are in the hospital, just let that baby suckle all day long. the nurses might tell you or you might read “10 minutes one side, 10 minutes the other side” but you need your milk to come in! so just let the baby suck as much as it wants. when the baby gets mad that the milk isn’t coming, switch. and start over. this could go for hours, its ok… what else do you have to do?? and your milk will come in so much faster and soon your baby will be satisfied. …only took me three babies to fully figure that one out… ;)

  • April

    Relax and enjoy!! Stay in pjs and just lay around and nurse your baby!

  • Kate

    Love the book and have recommended it often!

  • Rose

    Enjoy your children!

  • Becky

    You can only give what you are receiving from God: you need to take time to be with your Father so His love fills you and pours out onto your kids!

  • laniej

    I know it’s cliche, but soak up every single moment of your babies. They grow up way too soon!

  • Melissa Q

    Repeat after me — “It won’t always be this way… It won’t always be this way… It won’t always be this way!” It’s true, the hard stuff won’t always be this way. And the sweet stuff? Why, it won’t always be this way, either.

  • Allison

    Stay in the Word no matter what, trust in your own parenting intuition rather than listening to everyone else all the time (and all the books), and if you don’t have family nearby, find an older woman to help mentor you or just come help you and give you a break every now and then.

  • Bessie

    So much good advice on here already! I concur! You can never love on your babies too much! Enjoy the little moments! Sleep when you can. Know this is just a season – it won’t last forever! If you can’t get to everything you want to now – don’t worry about it – there will be time for those other things later.

  • Adriana

    My biggest piece of advice for an about to be or new mom is that being “mom” is not what you expect it will be. Leave the expectations behind and just allow God to walk with you through it. Words cannot really express the changes that will happen in your life (good ones and tough ones). You will never be the same person again- you learn a selflessness that you never new and a reliance on God more than you ever have before! Motherhood is an amazing blessing and adventure!

  • Angela S.

    My advice would be to try and not compare yourself to other Moms. Feel free to do things your way and just be who God intended YOU to be as a Mom. Everyone gets so uptight about little opinions. Try to just relax and be comfortable with how you like to do things.

  • Katherine

    Take time for yourself! It seems selfish, and you may feel guilty about it, but a break from responsibility makes you a better mom and helps you get through the rough times.

  • Heather Anders

    I’m a new mom of six months now, so my advice is that when you feel overwhelmed, seek self help, like the book Desperate. Then FOLLOW the advice of the book!

  • Kimberly S

    Relax, rest when baby rests and don’t think you have to be perfect! Keep God in the center of your mothering and He will strengthen and guide you!

  • mharper

    Let someone help you with other things Every. Single. Time. they offer while YOU love on your new little one; and sleep each time your baby does throughout the day until you’ve gotten all the rest you need, then those late nights won’t be so exhausting. It made an AMAZING difference with my second little one. You can do this! :)

  • Jennifer

    Cover every moment of every day in prayer. Pray in the joy, in the sad, and in the frustration. Depend on Him. Treasure your children. Enjoy them. And be flexible.

  • MRT

    Give yourself some grace. Laugh when you feel like crying or yelling. Pray without ceasing, and stay in the word!

  • Audrey

    Kids will love you no matter what your days are like!

  • Rachel

    Do not compare yourself, your husband, or your children to someone else’s family. Do not over commit yourself to activities. Even something that seems good can take too much time from your family, so pick wisely what you commit to and always seek your husbands advice (he sometimes knows your limits better than you do).

  • Mindy

    Some days you have to take it minute by minute to get through, and that’s okay. Be okay with that!!!

  • http://joyceandnorm.wordpress.com/ Joyce (and Norm)

    Listen to all the advice (nod and smile when you do this), but take what works for you and your family. Take more deep breaths. Ask for help!

  • Annie Thaichareon

    stay close to God and pray lots!

  • Heidi Smith

    Relax and enjoy your kids! Before to long you’ll have a 16yr old that pushes you away instead of jumps into your arms.

  • noa

    Just Relax! Try to embrace every moment because one day you will wish you can do all those moments all over again!

  • Helen G.

    Be kind to yourself. GRACE is a gift from God, and a gift you can give to yourself and your children.

  • Amanda Chambers

    It’s OK to let the housework slide! Accept help with grace. You don’t have to do it all.

  • Muriel

    When your frustrated, take a deep breath & tell them you love them. It’s hard to yell after that

  • Marla

    Be yourself in your parenting!

  • Amy

    You can’t snuggle your babies too much…remember you just carried them for 24 hours a day 7 days a week, for 9 months….go ahead and hang on to them, snuggle them, rock them, BUT also allow yourself some alone time by putting them down….when you are ready of course

  • Suzy

    My advice would be to make time for yourself, and don’t feel guilty for it. Having “me” time will help your overall health & help you with mothering.

  • Erica

    I’ve been seeking a mentor and have yet to find one. Maybe this will help!

  • Whitney

    Breathe. Sleep. Don’t forget to go out with just your husband. Go see your girlfriends and invite them over even if your house is less than perfect.

  • Alysha

    I would tell them to read Desperate :)

  • Jolene

    I would encourage her to not be too hard on herself and to seek out other moms in the same “desperate” situation. :)

  • Mandy

    I would tell a new mom to trust her intuitions, and enjoy every moment.

  • Tamboliya

    Advice: don’t beat yourself up. Show yourself grace. :)

  • SQ

    Never stop kissing and holding your children. This is every child’s love language.

  • Sharon Fuller

    Ask for help when you need it, people don’t usually read minds.

  • Alison

    Amidst all of the chaos (and people telling you what to do), don’t forget your identity as a woman and in CHRIST!

  • Robin Eggen

    I’d love to have this set. I’ve lead a small group study before but it’s been awhile. Thank you!

  • Allison D

    My advice is to just enjoy your little one. It’s so easy to miss the little things. My youngest is already 10 months old, and it feels like just yesterday I brought her home.

  • Meredith Cooper Adkisson

    Hormone changes are a real thing! Take care of yourself and give yourself grace.

  • Zaankali

    Relax. I was such a stressed out mom with baby number one and by baby number four I was wishing I had known to lighten up with the first. ;)

  • Hannah Lindsay

    My advice: Grace. Rest in God’s grace and give it freely to your children. And play. Play as much as possible.

  • Andie

    Advice to a new mom: Remember the grace and mercy God has shown you.

  • Amy

    Relax if you can ( I have a hard time doing that!) Enjoy the moment… it goes by sooo quickly. We always feel like we have to get everything done… but our children grow up in the blink of an eye!!

  • Amy

    Thanks for sharing your book! This is an awesome giveaway. A friend and I are praying about a small group womens study with some of the mom’s we are ministering too. This would be incredible!

  • Lori B

    Grace. Beautifully given to us by God but still Balanced with correction and instruction. That is the part I find difficult. Bringing balance in our everyday parenting. One thing is for sure God will meet us right where we are.

  • Jennifer F.

    if you have someone that can help you, let them. Don’t feel guilty! Use the time to rest, hold your baby, and get to know him or her. Even if you don’t have help, don’t worry about letting some things go for a while.

  • Kellie

    I say, if you think it, ASK it! Don’t feel silly asking questions, you will have MANY and there are many of us older mama’s out there that want to help!

  • Jenny B.

    Even if you screw up (and you will), God’s mercy is new every morning. You can always start again. Also, don’t be afraid to ask your children’s forgiveness.

  • Noelani

    Advice I would give to a new mom, would be to follow your own instincts and heart. People parent differently, and what may work for them and their children, may differ from what works best for you and your children. Instead of seeking advice from others … seek advice from our Father. You won’t be disappointed, and you will feel far more comforted than ever before. :)

  • slbragg

    I would tell a new mom to take the time to write things down. There are so many things that I wish I had kept better track of … the longer you wait, the harder it is to remember.

  • Charis Emerson

    Be where you are on purpose, and make your purpose to be a blessing to the people around you… As a mom of littles at home, it is often easy to lose sight of the purpose of not just caring for the immediate needs of our kids, but to really seek to be a blessing to them… This is just as important in the workplace, job, play, etc… When we seek to bless the people around us, we grow and honor God by loving the things that He loves…

  • Kala

    Cherish every moment…it truly flys by and remember grace though Jesus.

  • krista

    Seek God, find community, make community with others moms, extend grace.

  • Mandy Lee Davis

    I need this book so bad! Sounds about how I feel some days! :)

  • alieshac

    My advice: don’t compare yourself with other moms in real life or on blogs.

  • JOLINDA

    I so enjoy your honesty. Sometimes reading all the social media can become discouraging instead of encouraging. Thank you for being real.

  • Kathy Bennett

    For the past year, I have led a group of young Moms through this study. I don’t know who has been blessed more, me or them. Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom.

    For new moms, don’t beat yourself up trying to be what you think someone else is. Be the mother that God made you to be, and embrace the unique qualities He gave you.

  • Sonya Shell

    My piece of advice for new moms…if one thing doesn’t work, try something else! For example, if they don’t want to be rocked, try bouncing, if that doesn’t work, try tickling, if that doesn’t work, try putting them down in their crib, etc….just keep trying until you find “it”

  • Carissa Gaughan

    Sleep when they sleep no matter what “needs” to be done! Take any of the help offered!!!

  • Amy Miller

    Don’t compare yourself with other moms! You are the best mom for your baby!

  • Amy

    get lots of rest, as much as you can, but enjoy the time child is awake. Keep things simple and declutter often. I have a brain tumor and have learned that people not possessions are what make you happy.

  • Melissa Lein

    Don’t keep hoping (or mourning) for the life/family/kids/marriage you always wanted. The real one (the BEST one- the ONE God chose for you) will be passing you by. Live fully present! :)

  • Christy C.

    Show your yourself a lot of kindness and grace.

  • farmingfam

    Remember that God gave YOUR children to YOU because He knew you were best suited for them and would be the one who He could mold into the best mom for THEM. Learn how to take advice graciously, but with discernment. Put comparison and obligation behind you and move forward with confidence after you have sought God’s mind in any matter.

  • Jill

    Study the mothering in other cultures. Then you will be reassured with your own mothering intuition when it is pitted against your current culture.

  • Lydia

    You WILL mess up…but don’t give up. Tell your kids sorry, give them a hug and keep trying to grow and improve.

  • MSwann

    It is a beautiful, messy journey ~ with ups and downs. It’s not about not having any lows that makes you a “good” mom. It’s about being willing to learn and let God’s love shine through you onto your children!

  • Melinda Jean Britton

    Don’t wait for the right time to meet with Jesus. He is there in the sleepless nights, diaper changes etc.

  • Brooke Graham

    Give yourself grace!

  • Sarah Wageman

    Really looking forward to reading this book!

  • Jane Reinhard

    Trust in HIM!

  • Eve

    Take it one task at a time.

  • kathrynexpectanthearts

    Oh I would love to lead a small group at our church with this!

  • Shannon

    It’ll get easier!

  • Alicia Brumley

    You won’t want to be holding your baby EVERY SINGLE SECOND of every day! That’s ok! It doesn’t make you a bad mom! Take a 20 min break even if (or especially if) baby’s been crying all day.

  • Lena

    Enjoy your children, let the house be. One day you will be able to look back at all the memories.
    Make games out of cleaning. Play peek-a-boo while making beds (provides lots of fun for mum and tod).

  • Elizabeth P. Deans

    Enjoy this time of your life.

  • Deanna Michaels

    Hang in there and don’t worry about how everyone else says you should be doing things.

  • sue little

    enjoy yourself…. if life is getting crazy take time to make yourself a tea and sit for a few minutes… even if it means locking yourself in the bathroom. ;)

  • Stephanie Shelor

    Cling to the Lord and teach your children all about Him by living your faith to them.

  • Lynnette

    It’s a bumpy ride, so give yourself a lot of grace and cling tight to Jesus! It’s so, so, so worth it!

  • Mindy D

    Love love love reading Sarah Mae’s work!!! You are rocking some advice girl!!

  • Kaitlin22

    I still haven’t read this but am desperate to!

  • JViola79

    To rest. Somehow when well rested, the days just don’t seem as bad. Take a nap when they do. Would love to have this book! Can’t believe that tonight is the first time I have heard about it.

  • April R.

    I would tell them that motherhood is amazing and difficult all in one and that they will grow in ways they never thought possible and I would tell them to reach out to others because they are not alone in the struggles :)

  • Michelle S

    Read the Word, pray and sleep when they sleep. Also, you can’t hold them too much, enjoy all the snuggles you want!

  • http://www.thepurposefulwife.com/ Rachel O’Neill

    Advice is nice, but at the end of the day you must seek the Lord and go with your gut. Every child and family and mama is unique. Yes, you will make mistakes… but there is no such thing as a perfect parent.

  • http://candelierious.blogspot.com Lis

    Do not feel guilty about saying no, no, no. Spend as much time as you can enjoying your little one and don’t allow other things to overwhelm you. It really does go by too fast.

  • Ali Gibbons

    Give yourself grace. Set your productivity expectations low and take all the snuggles you can get.

  • Women Abiding

    I would say give yourself grace! Do your best, YES! Stay close to the Lord and His leading, YES! But more than that, thou cannot doest :-)! Enjoy every moment of the process, and trust in God to fill in all the gaps…

  • Erica

    Every baby is different. Don’t compare yours to someone else’s.

  • Maureen

    Sleep when the baby sleeps and just enjoy the cuddles as much as you can. The housework can wait!

    Maureen
    maureen.tenney@gmail.com

  • jenny phillips

    Don’t expect to return to your normal you after having a baby. you’ve forever been changed by that little person and you will find a new normal version of you. (And I’m not talking about weight!)