Moms of Little Ones, Hang in There! The Best is Yet to Come! - Sarah Mae
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Moms of Little Ones, Hang in There! The Best is Yet to Come!

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Today was a glorious day.

I sat on a big white blanket under a glorious sky and watched as my children fished, bicycled around a park, and played. But I didn’t always watch. Some of the time I lied down, closed my eyes, and enjoyed the sun warming my face. My husband sat on a bench and read a book.

The kids played and they were fine and I didn’t have to watch them the whole time. I didn’t have to chase after them. I didn’t have to entertain them.

Every now and then my oldest would come over and sit with me and we’d laugh about something or talk or just rest together. It was wonderful.

I kept thinking how much I wanted to tell moms of little ones, “It gets better!” The kind of better where you can not only breathe and relax on a beautiful day, but that your kids are your friends.

Not only will you not have to watch them every minute, not only will you get to close your eyes under the sun, not only will you be able to get a full night sleep, you will be able to enjoy a sweet friendship with your child. A friendship where you have actual conversations and share opinions and personality and tenderness and giggles. It is wild and awesome and such a gift.

So here it is, moms of little ones: It gets better! Your time is coming. Hang in there. The best is yet to come.

Love, SM

P.S. If you’re in the desperate stage of mothering, this might help. 😉

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  • Stephanie

    Thank you for sharing this, it was exactly what my soul needed to hear, even just the simplicity of what you shared! Mom of a 3 yr. old and pregnant with the next after a LONG hard week, my soul needed this. Thank you for your ministry and blogs no matter how small or intricate it is, your allowing God to speak! ~Stephanie

  • Claire

    As the mother of a seven-year old, I can attest that there are blessings and joys at each stage of motherhood (so far). There are also challenges at each stage, and I personally don’t consider this stage to be better than the early years. I never longed for the future when my son was little; if anything I dreaded the ending of the infant/toddler/preschool years. So it’s been a pleasant surprise that the joys and blessings keep coming, but I still would give anything to have some of the earlier moments back.

    • Sarah Mae

      Completely agree that there are blessings and joys with each stage! 🙂 For me, the it gets better part is the sweet friendship I’m developing with me children. I never wanted to rush through the stages (except maybe sleeping through the night), and I never long for them to grow up faster, but I do love this precious season! 🙂

  • Natalie Cone

    I needed this!

  • Megan

    There’s hope, then?! I’m so glad you had a lovely day with your kids. Sounds glorious.

    I’m still in the desperate stages (loved your book!) but mine are 4 and 2, which proves to be a teensy bit easier than 3 and 1. I don’t think we are “done” yet but I’m loving these two boys grow up a bit first!

  • Karen Schravemade

    This is encouraging. Thank you! I needed to read this today!

  • Shanon

    I understand what you were trying to do here but I don’t appreciate the implication that young children are a burden, that you have to grit your teeth through the little years until you can get to the point of sleeping all night again. That’s buying into the world’s perspective of children and it doesn’t do anyone any favors. We as moms need to be content is every stage, to find joy in every day, and not wish away our kid’s childhood so that life will be “easy,” again.

    • Sarah Mae

      Nope, never meant to imply what you think I am friend, but the reality is that taking care of small children is hard and exhausting, albeit good and beautiful work. To deny the reality that it’s tough is to paint a facade over the very real feelings moms experience. If we deny the truth, how can we help moms persevere? I also never said I wished away my children’s childhood. I never have and I never would, but the sweet friendship I am gaining as they grow has been one of God’s greatest gifts to me as a mom. And let’s face it, sleep is so helpful to functioning in life! 🙂

  • Ashley Schulte

    Thank you for this encouraging post 🙂 My son is two weeks old and I am loving this stage, but I do look forward to the days you talk about as well!

  • Jan

    I have to thank you so much for this, Sarah! I wanted to comment first thing this morning when I read it but my day was hectic! This was such a breath of fresh air. I know moms mean well when they say “enjoy this stage because it flies by so fast”, etc. (I personally know that they’re so right!) But I’ve been feeling a little bitter, if I’m honest, about some of those comments because it always makes me wonder what kind of selective memory these moms have! 🙂 Not that there aren’t a million joys in the little years… but where’s the compassion and understanding? (I do sound really bitter, don’t I?!) And I always wonder if when my children are well out of diapers will I look back on everything with rose-colored glasses too? That’s not all bad, just not always helpful for those still in the trenches! 🙂 It’s been good for me though, because I realize that I look ahead to some of the other stages with rose-colored glasses myself. The fact is, what we probably all need is more understanding of each other. I’ve had to realize again and again that among my friends there are some that love the baby stage and some that love the older stages more and of course it’s our privilege and duty to embrace the stage we are in right now. As evidenced by the previous comments here, we are each created uniquely and that’s good! So anyway, thanks for listening (to this mini blog post here!) – it’s a subject that’s close to my heart. 🙂 And many thanks again for writing this. It does my heart good!! May you be blessed for it.

    • Claire

      I am not a mother who tells moms of little ones to enjoy every moment, so I can’t speak for mothers who make those kinds of comments. But speaking for myself, I do not have selective memory about the early years I remember the hard parts about the infant/toddler/preschool stages. I am more of a baby person, so I probably enjoyed the early years more than most moms. There is nothing like the childlike innocence and excitement for every day things that we adults often take for granted. Thankfully my son at age 7 still has some of that, and I have been pleasantly surprised by the joys of his current stage, which I was not anticipating. I’m hoping I will be able to enjoy the future stages of his childhood as much as I have enjoyed these early years, but I also know that there will be crosses to bear with each stage. And much as I enjoy his current age, when I see one of his baby photos I want to pick up that baby so badly that my arms almost ache. And that’s not because I idealize the early years or loved every moment, because believe me I didn’t. I know how lucky I am that my seven year old still sits on my lap for snuggle sessions almost daily, but I still miss being able to physically pick him up and carry him around on my hip. Maybe it’s because I waited so long for him, and have only been blessed with one child. We each have our challenges and crosses to bear, and I totally agree with you and Sarah that we need to acknowledge the very normal feelings of overwhelmed moms and empathize with them. But reminders to find the joys in fleeting seasons have their place too.

      • Jan

        Thanks Claire, I really appreciate how you put that. And I see my comment came across sounding like I really thought mothers look back at the baby/preschool years with selective memory. While some may tend to, I don’t believe that most do at all. It just feels that way sometimes 🙂 but I truly recognize that they mean well and are trying to be encouraging while also sharing insight that I don’t have because I haven’t yet been there. You are absolutely right that there’s a place for reminders to find joys in the baby stage. In fact, I think we moms of littles may need to hear that extra often because it is an intense time. I think it’s encouraging to hear WHAT moms miss about that stage (like you just shared) instead of just a vague call to “enjoy it” (though that does have its place too!).

        • Claire

          I totally understand Jan! And, I have heard that some moms receive these comments right when they’re in the middle of dealing with a toddler temper tantrum or a crying baby, and I can understand why no one wants to hear “enjoy every minute!” when they’re in the middle of a crisis! I would not have appreciated that either.

    • Sarah Mae

      I’m so glad this encouraged you! 🙂 I have no idea what the future holds with my kiddos, but I know that right now, it is so amazing and I love it so much. I feel like I’m in the golden years; such joy! I know the teen years could be tough (hormones!), but I want to embrace each season the best I can with grace. Of course I don’t know how my children will turn out, but I know that I’m for them and am praying, praying, praying for them to know and follow the only One who can redeem them and keep them.

  • mama91

    I beg to differ. Things were much easier when my girls were small. I have 2 girls – a 24 year old and a 17 year old. The 24 year old decided at 18, to walk away from everything her Father at I tried to teach her… including her faith. She was kicked out of college and has decided it was ok to sleep around. My 17 yr old haa declared to me that she intends to move out when she turns 18….and has a countdown on her phone ’til the day. We have never lied to either one of them. We just didn’t allow them to wear short skirts or short shorts, or go just anywhere with anybody. My oldest after turning 18, started buying short shorts short skirts…..etc. Their Dad and I tried to teach them to dress modestly, that they are worth so much more than just eye candy or a piece of meat. But it has been a constant battle. I miss my sweet little girls. Yes I pray that God will speak to their hearts. But my heart breaks a little more everyday.

    • Claire

      I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, mama91. These are some of my biggest fear. I agree that things are easier/simpler when kids are little.

    • Jan

      I am so sorry. Wishing you courage, strength and peace amidst the heartbreak. I’m praying for you.

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