Well, I finally decided to give Periscope a go. And…
It was so fun! What a treat to be able to talk to you all live where you can ask questions and interact and it’s all FREE! Oh technology, you are such a gift. Anyway, my first go round was a miss. My video replay didn’t work (there was no volume and I was sideways), so I did an encore of my first little talk and the replay worked! Yay! You can watch below!
5 Ways to Bring Relief To Your Weary Bones
With my dear Sally, not being profound, but being profoundly silly!
Oh my goodness.
Sally just dropped some mad wisdom on me today and I wanted to share it with all of you out there who have small children or homeschool or have limited time and brain capacity in this season.
You have your whole lifetime to be profound. (tweet that)
Let me give you the context.
I was talking to Sally on the phone about edits and book writing and I was lamenting to her that I just feel like I don’t have the time for real depth. She told me that you can’t give yourself well when you give to too many things, and to let my season be what it is. “You have your whole life to be profound.”
And there it is, the words I didn’t know I needed to hear. It’s okay that I can’t give myself to deep, profound book writing/editing right now, I just don’t have the time or capacity. I’m not lazy or crazy or anything else, I’m just occupied.
Anyway, I just wanted to share that in case any of you needed to hear it.
Love to you today, SM
P.S. Sally has a new podcast called At Home with Sally! You can check it out here!
Abraham and the Three Angels by Rembrandt
Let’s talk about Abraham.
That chosen man God called to become a father of a nation, a man of blessing, of promise. That man, that righteous by faith man, he made some, uh, mistakes in his time.
Remember the time he told his wife to pretend she was his sister so the Egyptians wouldn’t kill him, and Pharaoh went and made her his wife? And then he did the same thing with at a later date. Incidentally, the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree. Abraham’s son Isaac did the exact same thing with his wife Rebekah.
Remember also when he listened to his wife and took her maid, Hagar, into his bed so she would conceive a child for him and Sarah? That didn’t turn out so well.
Oh but Abraham was faithful, even if he was fully human and prone to take matters into his own hands. And he loved the Lord, and He eventually stopped questioning the promises of God and just obeyed wholeheartedly, trusting Him completely. And you know, the scripture says that Abraham, “breathed his last and died in a ripe old age, an old man and satisfied with life.”
He died satisfied.
Abraham messed up in some big ways, ways that have had lasting consequences to this day, but yet, he died satisfied with his life.
His sins didn’t define him, his faithfulness did.
Let’s talk a little bit more about what this all means for all of us.
Read the rest over at (in)courage today.
With love, SM
I yelled at my kids tonight.
Oh I yelled.
They were supposed to be cleaning something, and I was hot while cooking dinner, and I was hungry, and I walked in the living room to see they weren’t cleaning and I just blew it.
I blew it because I blew up.
I looked at their little faces and I yelled and I told them to clean the bathroom up and down until it was shining.
And then one of them told on the other, and that made me mad. And I told them they’d better work harder than the other.
I went back to the kitchen, a sweaty mess, and continued to stir the spaghetti sauce. But my heart clinched because I hate yelling.
Yea, I know, sometimes we moms just yell. We lose it. It happens. And, I’m Italian. We’re loud. But here’s the thing, after I yelled my first thought was that I wasn’t so bad.
My second thought was me wondering if the person who used to yell at me growing up thought it wasn’t so bad.
It was. I was scared and I used to get sick to my stomach. Tense. Anxious. I hated it.
I hated being yelled at, and I vowed early on that I would not be like her; I vowed I wouldn’t be a yeller.
But here I am, yelling at my kids, thinking I’m not so scary when maybe I am. Maybe I am scary. Maybe they tense up and their tummies hurt and maybe they are afraid of me.
I set down my spoon and my kids came into the kitchen. I got down on my knees, pulled them near, and looked in their eyes. “I’m sorry I yelled at you all. I was mad you didn’t listen, and you need to listen, but I shouldn’t yell. I don’t like myself when I yell at you. Will you forgive me?”
They do, because kids forgive and are so gracious. They are grace to us so completely human, susceptible-to-sin mothers.
After they forgave me I asked them if I scared them. Two no’s, one yes (from the the littlest). We talk about it some more, and then we move on. My husband cracks a joke and we all laugh and all is well. We begin again.
In last night’s Core Lies Intensive, Kimberely said that motherhood often triggers our lies, the things we believe that have led us to make vows to protect ourselves and those we love, but that do more damage in the long run. She said that the bad part of the triggering is that is surprises and unnverves us. But the good part is that it brings light to our lies, and light breaks the dark allowing us to see and heal and trust our Father God.
I made a vow not to be like the person who yelled at me, but see vows give the illusion that we can stay in control.
When I break my vow, when I yell at my kids, it unnerves me because I see that I am just so human, so imperfect, so prone to sin. I can’t always control my temper. This isn’t an excuse to not change, it’s a reality that I am so in need of Jesus and His power in me.
Here’s the other thing: the gospel gives us permission to be radically honest and authentic. (Tweet that)
Sometimes I yell at my kids. I don’t like to yell at them. I sin so often. But I am also so loved.
See into my life and my story and you see a real mess who is utterly dependent on a real God.
There is such a rhythm to life and parenting and we will mess up, but we can always, always move forward in humility and grace and forgiveness. And when we are locked up and find ourselves getting overly angry when the situation doesn’t call for it, we can get help; we can ask God to show us why we reacted the way we did.
As Kimberely so beautifully puts it, kids don’t need perfect parents, kids need whole parents, parents who are willing to invite the Holy Spirit into their weak places and ask, “I wonder why this is happening? Will you show me God, why, and what the truth is?” God wants to heal us so we can be whole and free. He wants us to know how much He loves us and wants us to see Him as Savior and Father.
One more thing about my yelling. I, by the convicting power of the Holy Spirit, asked my kids to forgive me. I think there is a release in forgiveness, not only for myself, but for my children. They can release me in grace and not have to hold the imprint of my sin on their lives; I don’t have to live in their memory as a scary mom. I think forgiveness can heal wounds faster so there is less scar tissue in the long run.
I realize now that my wounds have taken longer to heal because forgiveness was never asked of me. But now that I’m older and I see more clearly and I’m whole, I can forgive without the asking of it. I’m free.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.”
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
You don’t have to keep beating yourself up. There is healing and freedom available to you, and you don’t have to whiteknuckle your way there.
You are loved and you are invited into a place of freedom, you just have to be willing to go there.
Goofy, vulnerable, strong-in-Christ girls clinging to grace!
Love to you, SM
Me, my sophomore year of college, rockin’ the overalls
In college, I was a bit of a mess.
And let’s face it, I am a bit of a mess still, but not quite the destructive mess I once was. See in college, as a new believer, I carried into my redeemed life quite a history. And childhood wounds and painful choices that leave reactionary scars are hard to control…especially when we don’t even know we’re acting out of them. But once light was shed into the darkness of my lies through wise and kind mentors/counselors, I was able to begin to live free and respond out of truth instead of what the pain told me to believe.
My life was changed.
This was the beginning of my hunger to live true and vulnerable and free and completely by faith in the One that held me close and called me His.
At a Navigators fall retreat. Such a gift.
was is this innate drive, woven into me by God Himself, that compels me to want to see women set free and living fully awake lives.
I love how Christine Cain says, “Why settle for deliverance when we can have freedom?“
God delivers us from sin and death, but so many of us still stay locked up in our wounds and lies and history and never walk into the promises that God has for us, the freedom that He calls into.
And this is where my soul stirs, in this freedom and this call for all women to walk free and healed and whole so they can live uncovered and unashamed. So they can live true. So they can get on with the beautiful business of the Kingdom, in their homes, for the world, and for their own souls…all to the glory of God.
Friends, I am over the moon excited to tell you about something I’ve been able to create to help women, to help YOU, who feel a bit locked up to start to walk in freedom.
It is a Core Lies Intensive and it is part of my Longing for Life Course.
Me talking about how our deeply ingrained lies hold us back from true freedom
What is the Core Lies Intensive?
The Core Lies Intensive is a time of working through our lies in a step-by-step format with a professional counselor via webinar in order to begin walking free. Read more about the intensive HERE.
Who Will Be Hosting the Intensive?
I will be hosting the intensive and Kimberely D. Knockel will be leading everyone through it.
Kimberley D. Knochel, M.A.B.C., is a pastoral counselor, consultant, trainer, and spiritual formation director. She has worked in the counseling field for more than 24 years. With previous experience as a director of pastoral care and counseling for a local church, a counselor and instructor at a Christian college, a counselor, trainer, and consultant with The Navigators, and a counselor with other para-church organizations and churches, Kimberley is uniquely equipped to help her clients experience true transformation and healing. You can read more about her at her here.
I know Kimberely personally as she has counseled me during my time in the Navigators ministry. She is also dear friends with the two people who have impacted me the most in my life (next to Sally Clarkson), Dave and Cathy Bowman. And it was with Dave and Cathy that she developed and teaches the core lies concept, which is life-changing material.
This webinar will be recorded and available to all course members to watch at any time.
UPDATE: The webinar is now available for viewing through the course. Get started HERE.
When Will the Intensive Be Held?
The Core Lies Intensive was held the 15th but is now available in the course website to watch. Join the course HERE.
How Do I Get Access to the Intensive?
If you were to have just one 50 minute session with Kimberely, it would cost you $90. But as a course member, we are offering this time with Kimberely for FREE.
Can I Get Group Pricing for the Course?
Yes! If you want to go through the course and the intensive with a group of women, please email Brian (at) dixonagency.org and he will set you all up!
Oh man, as I’m writing this I’m just practically bursting because I have the privilege of introducing you to Kimberely and the honor of hosting something that I believe will change the trajectory of your life. What a gift!
If you are locked up in any way, struggling with anger or past wounds or issues that won’t let you experience freedom, please join us on Tuesday.
It’s time to begin living free.
UPDATE: The webinar was AMAZING. To read some quotes from the webinar, click HERE and scroll down.
With love, SM