5 Tips for Getting Through the First Few Years of Motherhood

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I was checking out of the grocery store the other day, with my children, and the only thing going through my mind was the song, “I Will Survive.”

I couldn’t shake the song, so I finally looked at the woman standing behind me in line and said, “I will survive, that song? Should be every moms anthem.”

I smiled.

She didn’t.

I was sweating, because, well, checking out with my three kids and it was that kind of grocery trip.

We made it to car and all was well. But I still decided that day that “I Will Survive” is a mom’s anthem. At least those three words, because I’m pretty sure the rest is about love gone wrong. Or something like that.

Anyway.

What I’m saying is: Moms, you will survive.

Here are some tips to help you do just that.

Click on over to (in)courage to read my 5 tips for getting through those tired years! I’m also giving away some goodies there!

Love, SM

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3 Simple Ways to Memorize Scripture with Your Kids

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Near the middle of the night he ran down to our bedroom.

Tears were slung all over his face; he was scared.

“Mom, please let me stay, the dreams won’t go away.”

“Okay, come on, cuddle in with me.”

He snuggled in close and I could see and feel his body moving up and down as he tried to control his breathing and his crying and his fear. I rubbed his head, and kissed it, and whispered assurances into his ear. I told him when he was afraid he could sing, but he said he couldn’t remember any songs. He finally calmed down and closed his eyes.

I had sung to him many times, how could he not remember a song? But really, the song I had in mind was one about not being afraid, and the truth is I didn’t teach it to him; I wasn’t intentional about it.

And like they seem to do, revelation swooped right into my soul: You have not prepared your son for battle.

Whoa.

Right there in the dark, I knew I had not been doing a good job of teaching my son scripture. How can he fight off the dark when he can’t remember the light?

Oh, my son knows the Word, but he forgets the words.

It is my job to tuck them in close, help him to remember.

If he knows the words, he can speak them, the truth, into the dark. I must prepare him.

“Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

Ephesians 6:31-17, NIV

If you don’t have your sword in battle, you’re in trouble. My son will have a sword.

3 Ways to Teach Scripture to Our Children

1.  Commit to teaching them. I have thought about teaching my children scripture, but the truth is, over the last couple of years I have not put much effort into it. When they were little, before Caroline was born, I would sing them scripture all the time to tuck into their hearts. I’ve gotten lax. No more. Now, I have a plan.

2.  Start Small. I finally have a plan of action and it is simple: 12 scriptures a year, one a month. Our whole family is committed to learning just 12 scriptures this year. It doesn’t sound like much, but I know that I’m great at coming up with grand plans only to fail at them, so this year, baby steps. And hey, at the end of the year we’ll have sharpened our swords by 12 verses!

3.  Sing. Kids love to sing, and quite frankly, even though I stink at it, so do I. Just the other day as we were practicing our first verse of the year I decided to break out into a rap. My children thought it was hilarious, and the words began to stick. I’ve always found it easier to remember scripture by making up songs to it, and so this has been our preferred way of memorization (even though my husband says all our songs sound the same!). Click here to see an example of how we used a song to memorize the 10 Commandments.

For our first verse of the year, we have decided to memorize Matthew 6:33: “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Before we began memorizing it, I read the verse in context and explained to my children what it meant. To set up a memorial stone of sorts, I ordered this print from DaySpring to hang on our wall:

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And today, this is the gift I’ll be giveaway to one of you (remember, I’m giving away gifts every day in honor of the one-year anniversary of Desperate. Enter yesterdays giveaway here)!

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Love, Sarah Mae

P.S. My friend Brooke wrote a book called, Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most, and it just released TODAY! This will make a great resource as your learning scripture and praying for you’re children!

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One-Year Anniversary Celebration with Desperate Gift Set Giveaway!

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Happy Monday! :)

Today Sally and I are celebrating the one-year anniversary of the release of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe

To celebrate, I will be having a giveaway here every day this week!

About Desperate:

“I just can’t be a mother today.”

If you’ve ever whispered those words to God in quiet desperation, you are not alone.

Desperate is for those who love their children to the depths of their souls but who have also curled up under their covers, fighting back tears, and begging God for help. It’s for those who have ever wondered what happened to all their ideals for what having children would be like. For those who have ever felt like all the “experts” have clearly never had a child like theirs. For those who have prayed for a mentor. For those who ever felt lost and alone in motherhood.

In Desperate you will find the story of one young mother’s honest account of the desperate feelings experienced in motherhood and one experienced mentor’s realistic and gentle exhortations that were forged in the trenches of raising her own four children.

If you’re tired and struggling as a mama, Desperate can help you…

  • see, through the honest words of a young mom in the thick of the little years, that you are not alone or crazy
  • get through the little years with grace and sanity (wisdom from Sally Clarkson, wise woman, mentor, and mama to four grown children)
  • affirm you as a mom instead of make you feel guilty
  • create and pursue a vision of perseverance in the good, daily work you are doing as a mother
  • answer specific parenting questions through the Q & A at the end of the book
  • encourage you through videos of Sarah Mae and Sally talking about each chapter (via QR codes at the end of each chapter)

Today’s Giveaway!

Today’s giveaway is a small group gift set to get you started in leading your own Desperate small group book study! The winner will receive 8 books plus the DVD with all the videos discussing each chapter. If you’ve never led a small group study, check out my post on How to Lead a Women’s Small Group Bible Study. And specifically for Desperate, you can download this Desperate Small Group Guide for FREE!

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“Powerful, captivating and gut-wrenchingly honest; if this superb book could get into the hands of every mom, our world would drastically change, for the good! It’s a new classic for a new generation.”

-Kristen Habermehl, Author & Speaker from MyHeartAtHome.com

To Enter

Just fill out the form below! (Email readers, click here to come to the site and enter.) Giveaway ends this Friday at 11:59pm EST!

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Love, Sarah Mae

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#HusbandYear (Come join in if your husband is your 2014 word!)

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So, huh.

It appears that making my husband my word has inspired some others to do the same.

Which is AWESOME!

So hey, how about a link-up?

If you have made (or want to make) your husband your word of the year, leave a link to the post where you declare it! I might even post some challenges along the way for you…what do you say?

Here’s to the blind leading the blind! Oh wait. Well, it’s kind of true. At least the lead part. Heh.

But it’s okay, we can totally stumble through it! You in?!

Link up! And don’t forget to link back here so others can join in!

Love, Sarah Mae


P.S. Photo Credit: Dana and Mike, Anne and Tim, and me and Jesse

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Why I Don’t Write About Marriage

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You may have noticed that I write very little about marriage.

I do this, or rather, don’t do it, because I feel very inadequate in that arena. I am not a stellar wife, I submit awfully poorly, and I’m not real great in the intimacy department. Basically, I’m not winning any wife-of-the-year awards.

But, but, but.

The reality is that I also don’t write about marriage because I know if I did I would be accountable. I would have to try.

Sometimes it’s easier to push aside the thing you aren’t good at and focus on something else. With regard to many areas in life I would agree; focus on your strengths not your weaknesses. But we’re talking about marriage, and that is a holy thing and one we can’t sluff it off because of our weaknesses or because it’s hard. We all have a weakness in marriage because marriage puts two sinners together and says, “Let man not separate.” Basically, you’re stuck together. But that’s not a very helpful or enjoyable thought, is it? I agree. Therefore, we must work at marriage, which also means working towards being less selfish (at least in my case). It also means recognizing that I can’t actually work on myself because that’s the domain of the Holy Spirit; He molds, I make myself available for the molding. And there it is: I make myself available. I submit to the work. I agree with God that marriage is holy and worthy of nurturing.

Oh man. I’m going to start writing about marriage now, aren’t I?

Well yes. Because that worthy thing is not going to be sluffed off anymore. I’m available for change. I’m open to the work. I’m even making my husband my word. I’m ready and willing to not just get through my marriage, but to enjoy it. Which I mostly already do. But I’d like some wife-of-the-year awards. You know, from my husband at least. ;)

So, is there anything you’re afraid to write about/work on/be open to?

Love, Sarah Mae

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